Stop Outsourcing your validation!!

The Mindset Maniac: Episode 5

Stop Outsourcing your validation

 

On this episode of The Mindset Maniac, host Leslie Crevar talks about the reasons why we seek external validation and how to combat that impulse by modifying your self-talk.

 

Episode Highlights:

• Leslie introduces the topic of this episode, which is validation.
• She launches into an anecdote about “Lolita” (code name), a second youngest child who sought external validation from her parents.
• Children have a hard time self-validating, but it can become a problem in adulthood if you never develop the skills to self-validate.
• When your only source of validation is external, it can be hard to develop a sense of self other than who you are in relation to other people.
• When you repeat the same thoughts over and over, they inevitably become part of who you are.
• It’s important to become an observer of yourself.
• Be careful to not identify yourself with what you are feeling, because feelings are not permanent.
• Try to look at the facts when seeking external validation; ask yourself if your friends and loved ones like you, if you like you, you think you’re funny, etc.

 

3 Key Points:

1. When your only source of validation is external, it can be hard to develop a sense of self other than who you are in relation to other people.
2. It’s important to become an observer of yourself.
3. Be careful to not identify yourself with what you are feeling, because feelings are not permanent.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

• “Relying on external validation can really impact how we experience the world and how the world experiences us.” - Leslie Crevar

 

Resources Mentioned:

• Leslie Crevar Facebook Instagram 
• If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses