The Mindset Maniac Podcast

What to do, when you DON‘T know what to do! Part 1/4

This will be a four-part series.

Using your intention to guide your decisions, and your LIFE! 

Episode Highlights: 

• Leslie talks about the feeling of uncertainty that we all feel, and this is something that comes up for all of us, no matter how confident we are, how self-assured we are, how educated or experienced” She says uncertainty is something that creeps in and really affects what we do, what we don’t do, and most importantly how we feel.”
• Leslie shows you how to identify your intentions to overcome the feeling of uncertainty. 
• When it comes to intentions, there are generally two types of drivers - The desire to move away from something or the desire to move towards something. 
• Leslie asks the listeners to visualize, “A life raft, a deserted island and a rescue boat."
• Leslie shares another example to explain her point. She asks the listeners to imagine, “You are struggling with the decision to leave your job, and perhaps you feel like, gosh, I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what the right decision to make is. That uncertainty creeps in, so you start thinking about what would be on your deserted island.” 
• Often in her life, Leslie uses the above-mentioned deserted island or rescue boat activity. This helps her to identify what her real intention is or needs to be-- which clarifies what her next steps should be.
• Leslie says, “On part two of this series, I’m going to introduce to you the first of the three silent intention killers. The first one, Leslie describe as the intention killer that pretends to be a verb. Any ideas of what that might be? Or if you’ve fallen victim to this intention killer?” 

 

 Key Points:

1. In today’s episode, Leslie will dig into “How we can overcome the feeling of uncertainty by learning to make decisions?
2. Leslie asks the listeners to think about “Are you motivated most by what you’re trying to move away from, or by something that you’re trying to move towards?”

 

Tweetable Quotes: 

• “Your mindset is the most important part of your existence. With a healthy, adaptive, and expansive mindset, you can achieve anything, and you can learn to use every challenge in your life to benefit you”. - Leslie Crevar
• “We can often quickly identify with something that we either really want to move away from, or something that we really want to move towards-- that's your intention”- Leslie Crevar
• “It is particularly easy to kill your intention once you’ve identified it, and when this is happening, it’s typically not as obvious as we believe it to be.” - Leslie Crevar

Resources Mentioned: 

• Leslie Crevar Facebook Instagram

If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses

 

Self-Love: Developing Self-Love through Emotional Awareness

Self-Love Part 1: developing self-love through emotional awareness, 07/07/2021

 

In this episode of The Mindset Maniac, host Leslie Crevar talks about Self Love. She explains that Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from understanding and actions that support our physical, psychological, and emotional growth. Self-Love also means having a high regard for your well-being and happiness.

 

Episode Highlights: 

 

1. Leslie dives deeper into the meaning of Self-Love. According to Leslie, Self-Love is an active practice of accepting, caring, and encouraging oneself. 
2. Self-Love provides oneself with an opportunity to understand and see themselves completely. 
3. Leslie explains Self-Love with a classic example; she asks the listeners to consider themselves as house; she explains there are some things within our house that need work or attention. If we consistently step over or ignore the things that need work, we lose the opportunity to fix those things, and down the road, those things keep piling up. 
4. Just as the journey of self-awareness and self-growth differs from person to person, the definition may vary as well, says Leslie.
5. Leslie points out, “Why having self-awareness is important?”
6. Leslie suggests a simple, productive exercise to help the listener’s brain work a little differently when it comes to figuring out emotions. 
7. She asks listeners to think about their emotions in a different manner than usual and ask oneself, “How you feel them?” “Why you feel them?”
8. Leslie lists the different combinations of emotions and asks the listeners to think about different scenarios for each. 
9. Groups of 5 emotions are: Relaxed and Creative, Excited and Confident, Important and Playful, Lonely, and Insecure, Inadequate and Foolish. She asks the listeners to think about “What does it feel like to be both of the listed emotions at the same time?”

3 Key Points:

1. Leslie talks about the 7 categories of Self-Love: Self-Respect, Self-Esteem, Self-Kindness, Self-Growth, Self-Care, Self-Exploration, and Self-Awareness.
2. Leslie explains how important it is to recognize a person’s strengths and weaknesses.
3. Listeners learn about the exercises that help to improve Self-Awareness.

Tweetable Quotes: 

• “If we want any positive changes in our lives, it has to start within.” - Leslie Crevar
• “Self-Love is not just an interpersonal concept, but it is also an intrapersonal process.” - Leslie Crevar
• “It is common to experience multiple given emotions at any given point of time.” - Leslie Crevar
• “Our default is typically to latch on to one emotion.” - Leslie Crevar

 

Resources Mentioned: 

Leslie Crevar Facebook Instagram

If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses

How To Benefit From The Losses In Your Life

How to Benefit from the Losses in your Life, 06/22/2021

 

In this episode of The Mindset Maniac, host Leslie Crevar talks about the benefit of losses and how it important and helpful for everyone. She asks the listeners to not only experience a loss, instead look forward to being impressive.

 

Episode Highlights: 

• Leslie talks about the most significant loss of her life, the loss of herself and her identity.
• Before starting as a life coach, a lot of her identity was wrapped up in her physical abilities.
• She was prepared for changes that come with pregnancy but was not prepared for the complicated birth, birthing trauma, and two post-partum surgeries that left her body in a state that she could not do physical things as she used to do before.
• She needed to accept the loss and welcome this new empty space or void.
• When we have something that was there, and now it is not, we are open to a world of possibilities.
• We can’t imagine what is coming from these losses, but we can remain open to it and shift how we took these losses.

 Key Points:

1. Regardless of any physical or emotional loss, a loss creates a unique opportunity to decide what fills that new opening. 
2. Leslie talks about the different ways that one experiences losses in his/her life. 

Tweetable Quotes: 

• “There are different ways we can experience loss” - Leslie Crevar  
• “We can fill the void with something even better than what was there before” - Leslie Crevar 
• “Loss is inevitable, it’s not comfortable and its rarely desirable, but it’s both unavoidable and crucial to our development” - Leslie Crevar 
• “You get what you want/ need when you are NOT looking for it” - Leslie Crevar 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Leslie Crevar Facebook Instagram

 

If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses

Overcoming All or Nothing Thinking

In this episode of ‘The Mindset Maniac’, host Leslie Crevar talks about ‘All or Nothing Thinking’

Episode Highlights: 

• As per Leslie if we divide our world into two distinct categories this can be both problematic and unhelpful.
• Leslie examines as to where this ‘All or Nothing Mindset’ stems from.
• According to her we all love options, but too many options are overwhelming.
• As per Leslie, our society is getting so stuck right now as we're losing our ability to see the grey.
• Leslies discusses ways to overcome the ‘All or Nothing Mindset’.
• “Newly formed neural pathways are super delicate and it really takes repetition over-and-over again, to reinforce them”, says Leslie.
• Leslie advises to scan your thoughts and to notice what's coming-up in your brain how you think about things.
• Finally, Leslie wants us to think about how many options we've given ourselves.

3 Key Points:

1. Leslie states that this way of thinking can be very harmful, because not being able to see the grey means that we're unable to see things in an unbiased or neutral way.
2. Most studies show that more often than not, this way of thinking stems from fear or a desire to want to have control which can look different for each individual.
3. Neural pathways in the brain begin to solidify around the age of 25 but new neural pathways can be created at any time and it just takes a bit of effort. You can do this by challenging yourself by creating new habits and patterns.

Tweetable Quotes: 

• “Having too many options can bring us to a state of fear--it just feels unsafe and it takes a lot more energy.” - Leslie Crevar 
• “A big part of overcoming this way of thinking is just to challenge it.” - Leslie Crevar 
• “It's okay to agree and also disagree; it's okay to live in the grey.” - Leslie Crevar 

 

Resources Mentioned: 

• Leslie Crevar: Facebook Instagram

If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses

Spring Cleaning ＞＞ for Your Mind!

Spring Cleaning Activity-- for your MIND

 

In this episode of The Mindset Maniac, host Leslie Crevar talks about spring cleaning.

Leslie helps listeners evaluate what can stay, what needs to go, and what may require reorganization or a little updating. If we do this for our physical possessions, homes, closets, cars-- why wouldn't we do this internally?

 

Episode Highlights: 

• Spring is the perfect time to purge, reorganize, access, and evaluate.
• Leslie asks listeners to think about last six months of your life and ask, “How you have been doing?”
• Leslie guides listeners through a quick but effective activity assess their current level of satisfaction in life and then gives steps to help improve key areas.

Tweetable Quotes: 

• “Spring is the perfect time to purge, reorganize, access, and evaluate-- both physically and emotionally.” - Leslie Crevar 
• “Everything we do or talk about in life revolves around 5 things.” - Leslie Crevar 
• When we have visual representation, it’s very helpful for us to see what we feel inside. - Leslie Crevar

Resources Mentioned: 

• Leslie Crevar Facebook Instagram
• If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses

 

The Battle Between Your Old self Vs. New Self

The Battle Between Your Old self vs New Self 

In this episode of The Mindset Maniac, host Leslie Crevar talks about “Why you have to be like a spy in-order to change your life?

Episode Highlights: 

• Leslie talks about how your old self does everything it can to remain as it is; it wants to conserve energy, efforts, and time.
• Your old self is really smart and is very adamant about sticking around.
• So, becoming your new self (having confidence, decision making, worthy, motivated) is a threat to your old self.
• To become a better version of yourself, you will have to do a little sneak attack on your old self.
• This approach works because your old self won’t recognize the small changes. 
• Instead of deciding to make abrupt changes think about bettering your day or the choices that you make daily.
• Once the small change starts to feel natural, sneak in the next change that you want to implement.
• Using this practice, your new self-starts to get stronger and bigger, and you can slowly phase out parts of the old self that no longer serves you. 

3 Key Points:

1. Old self does things consciously or unconsciously so that the new self does not survive. 
2. Leslie talks about how small changes go un-noticeable or manageable by your old self.
3. To win the battle of old-self-vs new-self, you have to become clever. 

Tweetable Quotes: 

• “Your old self sees your new self as a threat” - Leslie Crevar
• “Old-self always takes over, since it has been with you longer.” - Leslie Crevar
• “Often the tiny little things that seem in-significant later becomes the big thing.” - Leslie Crevar

Resources Mentioned: 

 

• Leslie Crevar FacebookInstagram
• If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses

 

Self Trust: Where did it go? How to get it back!!

Self Trust: Where did it go? How to get it back!! 

 

In this episode of The Mindset Maniac, host Leslie Crevar talks about self-trust; it is not about having all the answers or having all figured out, but rather having the conviction in yourself. 

 

Episode Highlights: 

• Leslie talks about the importance of being kind and respectful towards yourself regardless of the outcome.
• Think about someone who can never decide on their own, and this is because maybe they have made a bad decision in the past. Because of this, they make the decision based on what other people think or want. 
• Now, think about someone who is decisive, they have clarity and confidence; such people tends to speak with authority, not arrogance. 
• Both types of people makes mistakes, but the second kind has developed the ability to learn from their mistakes. They don’t see these mistakes as a reflection of who they are but rather give themselves grace and compassion.
• They trust themselves, which allows them to overwhelm fear. 
• She gives a classic example of how she trusts her husband, not because he is her husband but because of his words and actions. When he decides to do or not do something, history has shown that she can trust him to do or not do something. 
• When she works with clients who start with self-trust, to establish self-trust, we must establish start-creating evidence that we are self-worthy.
• At the end of the day, it is really about “How we see ourselves”; it is more about “How we manage our mistakes?”

3 Key Points:

1. Leslie talks about how you can get the confidence to self-trust yourself. 
2. She shares an example of how people start to lose trust and self-doubt themselves. 
3. If you commit to doing any task, then make it a point to complete it. 

 Tweetable Quotes: 

• “Mistakes are a part of how we grow.” - Leslie Crevar
• For a moment, think about someone who you trust then think about “Why you trust them?” - Leslie Crevar
• “Though the steps sound super simple, it does not mean it is easy.” - Leslie Crevar
• “Make micro-commitments, that you can make to yourself then keep to yourself.” - Leslie Crevar

Resources Mentioned: 

• Leslie Crevar Facebook Instagram
• If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses

Calling out this ’Confidence’ Imposter!

Calling out the ‘Confidence’ imposter! Episode 8

On this episode of The Mindset Maniac, host Leslie Crevar talks about “The shield of protection that many people use, and it is often disguised as confidence.  

Episode Highlights: 

• Leslie Crevar talks about a commonly used phrase “I don’t care what anybody thinks about me.” We use this as armor.
• Typically, the intent of using this phrase is good. 
• Focusing too much on what other people think about us can create sadness and prevent you from doing or not doing certain work.
• Leslie points out this kind of attitude can also be problematic because we need to feel up to a certain point about what others think.
• Imagine a world where people stop caring about what others think, how would it look? This is not confidence but false armor.
• Such behavior can be a sign that maybe the person cared but got hurt.
• Being on the side where you don’t care what other’s think, it may feel good. However, it prevents growth that comes from reflection and self-awareness.
• It’s easy to mistake this as confidence. This comes from a place of fear and hurt. 
• The real armor here is not to not care what other’s think, but rather care about what you think about yourself?

3 Key Points:

1. It’s easy to mistake this as confidence. This comes from a place of fear and hurt.
2. The important thing is to find your balance. Not be in the one extreme side of the pendulum or other. 
3. Confidence comes from knowing, trusting, and loving yourself. 

 

Tweetable Quotes: 

• “If we stop caring, we are unable to access things like empathy, care and compassion.” - Leslie Crevar
• “Anything can happen in life when we let ourselves be open.” - Leslie Crevar
• “Dive deeper into self-discovery, it’s not about how they see you; it is about how you see yourself.”

 

 

Resources Mentioned:

Leslie Crevar Facebook Instagram

My favorite guided journal!

If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses

 

 

Adaptation: Super Power or Kryptonite?

The Mindset Maniac: Episode 7

 

Adaptation: Super Power or Kryptonite?

 

On this episode of The Mindset Maniac, host Leslie Crevar talks about “Adaptation” and the power it has for better and for worse.

 

 

Episode Highlights:

 

• Leslie shares real-life incidents on the downside of adaptation, how it might also seem like we are taking things for granted.
• She says that we have biological and emotional plasticity as humans, which means we can adapt to any environment or situation.
• Leslie further adds our reflexes to something good or bad, highlights our capability to adapt to any situation. 
• She points out that adaptation can be grandeur or smaller; it can also happen over a lifetime.
• She makes us realize that there are so many different life phases; just when we think we are all settled, there is time for a new chapter.
• Her advice to listeners is to make two lists, one for the things they are proud to have adapted and the other about the adaptation that contributed to decreasing their quality of life.

 

3 Key Points:

 

1. We have biological and emotional plasticity as humans, which means we can adapt to any environment or situation.
2. Adaptation is our superpower - using this as a tool, we should live a meaningful life. Relationships, behaviors, thoughts, circumstances, whatever it may be, we can adapt for better or worse.
3. Adaptation is powerful, and it allows us to see that we are in charge of choosing or controlling what we choose to accept or what we adapt.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

 

“Your mindset is the most important part of your existence; it dictates your current experiences in life and ultimately your future.” - Leslie Crevar

 

“With a healthy adaptive and expansive mindset, you can achieve anything, and you can learn to use every challenge in your life to benefit you in some way.” - Leslie Crevar

 

“When it comes to adaptation, our superpower can also be our kryptonite.” - Leslie Crevar

 

Resources Mentioned:

 

• Leslie Crevar Facebook Instagram
• If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses

The ’Must be Nice’ Mentality...

The Mindset Maniac: Episode 6

The "Must be Nice" Mentality

On this episode of The Mindset Maniac, host Leslie Crevar

 

Episode Highlights:

• Leslie introduces the topic of the episode as the “must be nice” mentality.
• She says that when she was younger, she didn’t understand how other people could be happy or positive all the time-- it certainly didn't feel natural to her anymore.
• Leslie recalls a time, back when she was still dating her husband. He was doing clinical nursing internship at the hospital, going to his bartending job at night, getting home late, and getting up very early the next morning to do it all over again.
• Leslie says that his outlook and attitude during that time represented the mindset that she wanted to have.
• To accomplish this, she started journaling and using affirmations to help herself achieve her desired mindset.
• She found that over time when she was doing her journal reflections, she noticed that she was trending more toward a positive mindset and moving away from being judgmental or angry.
• During this time, she noticed changes in her relationships.
• Over the course of 5 years, she began to notice that her mindset was causing little positive changes.
• Her advice to listeners is to identify the qualities you see in others that you want to possess, and find one thing that you must stop doing and one thing you must start doing in order to achieve that.

 

3 Key Points:

1. Leslie introduces the topic of the episode as the “must be nice” mentality.
2. You are not stuck with the hand you were dealt—or the mindset that may have been modeled for you.
3. Her advice to listeners is to identify the qualities you see in others that you want to possess, and find one thing that you must stop doing and one thing you must start doing in order to achieve that.

 

Tweetable Quotes:

• “It’s tough not to look at what other people are doing, or who they are, or how they’re moving through life and not compare ourselves to it.” - Leslie Crevar

 

Resources Mentioned:

• Leslie Crevar Facebook Instagram
• If you are interested in taking your personal development to the next level check out Leslie's courses and Masterclasses